When your relationship is suffering, you have a choice; put it out of its’ misery or nurse it back to health. If the love that you share is worth saving, act quickly to reverse and repair the damage that’s already been done.
7 WAYS TO FIX A BROKEN RELATIONSHIP
Seek first to understand, then be understood. Couples therapist Dr. Robert Solley says that ‘The listener has to hold back their own emotional reactions and interpretations, and really try to get the essence of what the speaker is putting out.’
Active listening is more than hearing. Your body language should show that you are open to understanding your partner and you shouldn’t be waiting for your turn to speak. Here are some ways to show that you are actively listening: – Ways To Fix A Broken Relationship
* Face your partner and turn your body toward them
* Make and keep eye contact
* Uncross your arms and nod when appropriate
* Mute the TV and your cell phone
* Summarize your partner’s words to check that you understood them
* Ask questions to clarify their meaning
It takes two to tango and when you’re in a relationship, it’s a partnership. You can’t have it your way all of the time and neither can your partner. You have to find a common ground that works for both of you.
Finding a win-win for both of you is ideal, but if that’s not possible, be willing to give ground. Rather than digging in your heels and fighting, first identify the level of importance of this particular issue.
Are we arguing about toast vs. English muffins for breakfast or is it something larger like renting vs. buying a house? Is it something minor that you can live with? Then let your spouse have their way this time. When it’s an important part of your life like your values, safety, or sanity, don’t compromise.